The Breathing Prosperity blog

For any of you who have seen The Secret, there will be a familiar line about how, if you focus on what you really love about another person rather than the things you don’t like, the Universe will set things up so that you ‘zig’ when the other person ‘zags.’ In other words, the Law of Attraction works so that you cannot be in the same space as someone is vibrating with a totally different energy level than you are, at least for long.

Today I have a question, because it seems to be plaguing me as far as what is ‘right’ in this game of understanding and applying the Law of Attraction. If you are in a relationship with someone there will be things that you wish the other person would change…if you are in it long enough! Knowing about Law of Attraction, you may decide instead to look inside and see what you are doing to create whatever the situation is, and if the actions of the other are destructive, you may choose at some point to end the relationship. My question is this: at what point do you draw the line?…What if the other person’s actions are not harmful to you, but somehow you feel you need or want something more/different and you realize it is not fair to expect anything of the other person than to be who they are…? If we are absolutely in control, then we should be able to create the perfect relationship with just about anyone…thus there should never be a reason to leave ie. if we change ourselves enough, any relationship should work out. Of course I am not discounting the desires, and level of maturity, development, etc., of the other party; this is merely a concept I keep kicking around and cannot seem to find a solid answer. I have been asked by many people who are unsure of the point at which they should give up on a current relationship, and I’m asking myself the same question. After ensuring they are not staying out of fear of being alone, how does one decide? If there is already a relationship with a lot going for it, how do you know whether to focus on enjoying the good parts (ie. make those expand in your consciousness and in reality), or to really go for having everything you want, 100%…?

When we talk about the Law of Attraction, we tend to use a lot of definitions as to how things ‘should’ be in order to make the best use of natural principles. For example, although we assert that nothing is either good or bad, we do say that we must keep our energy levels and thought vibrations high so that we may attract like thoughts and vibrations. Similarly, we say that we must focus on what we want, rather than what we don’t want, so that we may attract more of that which we are focused on (because what we focus on is what expands in our lives).

With all this attention on maintaining states and thought patterns that serve us and help us achieve our goals, we must also remember to allow things to flow with their natural rythms.

It is actually possible to be so rigid in our thoughts or attempts to maintain a positive state that we stop the flow of energy, thereby keeping from us that which we are trying to attract. For instance, if we are constantly monitoring our emotions so that we ‘purge’ anything negative, we may be blocking the natural flow of an emotion that needs to be processed, such as when we are naturally saddened by the death of a loved one. In a similar way, if we hold grudges against others then no matter how much work we do on ourselves in other areas, the resentment constitutes an energy block – or wall – that we have installed and which will impede the flow of all things good to the extent that it exists. These are sometimes called blind spots, and can be readily identified by noticing when you feel uptight, or when you frequently experience the same emotion or thought pattern. Your pet peeves, for example, are good clues as to your emotional blocks, and if explored and released can leave room for bursts of new growth, thus paving a new pathway for wonderful things to happen, where previously there was only a dead-end. As with everything else about Law of Attraction and personal development, the answers are inside you. Go explore!